THINKING DIFFERENTLY that is what we are going to be discussing today. I Love the quote in the beginning that says, “Beware when the great God lets loose a thinker on this planet.” I want to start by saying that this is NOT my strong suit. I am one that just does things and I am not good at THINKING. As you may have read thinking is NOT an easy thing, and it is a skill that I am currently really working on in my own life. This chapter I really feel is such a continuation of chapter 2 and continues to help us get our thoughts RIGHT.
Okay, that being said, in Chapter 3 John Maxwell states, “People who achieve their dreams usually experience a lot of failures along the way, but they don’t let failure get the better of them. They think of themselves as achievers, as successes–even when things go wrong.” So How do successful people keep thinking “right” no matter how many obstacle they encounter? There are six abilities that success people possess.
1. Successful people reject rejection
All too often people place their self-worth on their performance, however successful people say, ‘I missed that one,’ or ‘I made a mistake.’ Their self-worth is not performance based.
2.They see failure as temporary. When successful people fail, they see it as a momentary event, not a life sentence.
3. Failures are seen as isolated events.
4. They See success as a PROCESS. ‘The greater the feat you desire to achieve, the greater the mental preparation required for overcoming obstacles and persevering over the long haul.’
5. Successful people are willing to try a new approach. KEEP TRYING DON’T GIVE UP!
6. And last they BOUNCE BACK. The song Tubthumping by Chumbawamba comes to mind everytime I read this, “I get knocked down, but I get up again, You’re never going to keep me down.” That is how successful people think.
I continue to learn so much from Nick. We are definitely the true definition of “opposites attract.” I am social, he is an introvert. I spend, he saves. I talk, he thinks. We are definitely different and I am so thankful for all that I have learned from him. He has taught me more about dreaming and goal setting than any other person I have ever met. I am learning that the qualities in him that use to drive me crazy (like sitting quiet in the car…like I mean in pure silence) is one of his GIFTS. When he is driving which is something he does ALL THE TIME, he is CONSTANTLY thinking. His mind NEVER stops. My mouth doesn’t stop……his mind doesn’t stop. And as the quote in the book says, “A minute of thinking is better than an hour of talking.” WHOOPS!! This is something I am working on I PROMISE. Anyway, we need to give ourselves time to think. We need to sit and be silent and still. We need to think about where we are and where we want to go and what it is going to take to get there. So set time aside for THINKING. Find your creative thinking spot. I have to admit for me it is when I am just sitting at the kitchen table working that my mind is “ON” (yes that does happen sometimes). Where is your place where your mind is on and you are most productive and able to think creatively?
Force yourself to think. “If thinking were easy everyone would do it and everyone would be successful. This reminds me so much of this boy I use to nanny for, his name is Quentin, he is autistic and so he will start to think about something and start to obsess on it and then continue to repeat a question or thought to us. Well, Quentin is someone who loves to run and he was on the cross country team in high school and he actually began to obsess on how hard running is and would say, “If running were easy, WHAT?” to which we are to reply “Everyone would do it.” This became a chant that the team would say as they ran during their practice and when he graduated they had shirts made with that saying and honored him at Graduation. Well same goes for thinking. If thinking were easy everyone would do it.
See problems as opportunities. Instead getting hooked up on a problem, look it as a challenge and an opportunity for growth. There is the saying, “Give the lazy man the hardest job and he will find an easy way to do it.” This rolls into the next thought of not accepting the saying of “this is just how we have always done it.” Who cares if this is how everyone else does it, change is good at times and sparks a whole new light on the subject. There is always more than one way to do things and many times the more options you have the better your success rate. And lastly working together, Two minds are better than one. Ask for help. we are here to support one another and work together as a team. We have all been given different talents and if we work together and THINK about how we can incorporate all of the different talents to move forward for one purpose we can be an unstoppable force.
Homework: Find your thinking spot, set time aside for thinking, and close your mouth and listen more. OUCH!! Maybe that is just for me. Have a great day.